The Joy of Surrogacy
Gestational vs Traditional Surrogacy
A Gestational Surrogate, which is most common, is a Surrogate who is not genetically connected to the child(ren) that she is carrying for the Intended Parent(s). Embryos are created from the eggs (ova) that are retrieved from the Intended Mother or an Egg Donor, and then fertilized with the Intended Father’s sperm, or Donor Sperm. The embryo is then transferred to the Surrogate’s womb.
Traditional Surrogacy is illegal in many US States. In traditional surrogacy, the Surrogate is genetically related to the child she is carrying as her eggs are fertilized by the Intended Father's sperm or Donor sperm.
How Do I Become a Surrogate?
Managers or call our office directly toll-free (888) 569-7790 .
How Long to Become Matched?
We do our best to match our Surrogates as quickly as possible. It typically takes 1-3 months to become matched. Once you are matched, the screening process, including the legal process, usually takes 1-3 months. Once you have been cleared to start your IVF cycle you are typically on medications for 3-4 weeks before you complete your embryo transfer.
Responsibilities of a Surrogate
Being a Surrogate requires a certain level of responsibility while providing the wonderful gift of parenthood to a deserving couple. A Surrogate must acknowledge and understand the importance of keeping her appointments, following all instruction given by the IVF Clinic and her OBGYN. Open communication and mutual cooperation between our agency and each Surrogate we work with is necessary for a smooth and successful surrogacy journey.
"helping 2 different couples grow their families as a Surrogate were rewarding and meaningful experiences to me and my family"
- Rachel, 2x Surrogate with DFS
Do I get to choose the Intended Parent(s) that I work with?
Yes. Once Intended Parents review your profile and share an interest in working with you, we will then share their profile with you. If you are interested in working with the Intended Parents, our agency will arrange a phone call or video chat meeting followed by another video chat or in-person meeting. You are "matched" once both you and the Intended Parents agree to work together.
How much contact will I have with the Intended Parents?
The amount of contact depends on the wishes of you, the Surrogate, and the Intended Parents. Typically, the relationship and communication happens naturally as you go through the process.
What fertility doctors/clinics do you work with?
We work with clinics throughout the United States. If long distance travel is required, your travel will be arranged and pre-paid by our agency. You will receive a travel stipend for food and miscellaneous expenses. If traveling, you will only be making these trips during the initial stages of the fertility treatment and pregnancy. Once you are near the completion of the first trimester, the fertility doctor will release you to your local OB doctor.
What is Surrogacy?
A Surrogate is a woman who agrees to carry a child(ren) for another person or couple. There are two types of surrogates: Traditional and Gestational.
Why should I go through Diversity Fertility vs. going independently?
In addition to thoroughly screening both our Intended Parents and Surrogates, we quickly provide you with loving Intended Parents so you more choice and control when selecting the Intended Parent you wish to work with. Discussions over cost, escrow accounts, doctors, lawyers and scheduling appointments can overwhelm and stress the relationship between the Intended Parent(s) and the Surrogate Mother. Having an agency there to manage the process and handle the details allows the Intended Parent(s) and the Surrogate Mother to relax and enjoy the pregnancy.
How much am I paid?
Surrogate Mother’s compensation varies by experience. Most Surrogate Mothers receive a compensation plus additional benefits and stipends averaging $45,000-$75,000. We will provide you with a detailed list of your base compensation and all of the additional compensations you will receive throughout the process. Starting with $1,000.00 just to complete the screening process which you can begin by answering 12 short Screening Questions. You also receive additional compensation if you carry multiples.
How will I be compensated?
Once you sign your legal agreement with your Intended Parent(s) you will be paid in bi-weekly or monthly installments. You will be required to turn in a reimbursement form by the 25th of each month and you will receive your payments due to you per your signed legal agreement by the 5th of each month.
Does this cost me anything?
No. The Intended Parent(s) are responsible for all expenses incurred as a result of the surrogacy. These expenses include Surrogate Mother compensation plus stipends, medical expenses, attorney fees, and travel expenses.
Will I miss work?
The amount of work you miss will depends on how your appointments are scheduled with the IVF clinic you are working with. You will have more frequent appointments in the initial stages of the IVF process, typically weekly appointments. Once you are pregnant and released by your IVF physician you will see your OB doctor just as you would with your own pregnancy.
What are the health risks as a Surrogate Mother?
A surrogate pregnancy has no more risks then a regular pregnancy. It is important that the Surrogate Mother consult with your OB doctor to discuss the risks of pregnancy.
Can I be a gestational surrogate if my tubes are tied?
Yes, in achieving a pregnancy through the IVF process the embryos are placed directly into the Surrogate’s uterus so the fallopian tubes are not used.
Will I take injections?
Most IVF clinic’s protocols require you to do daily injections to prepare your uterus for embryo transfer. Once you have had your transfer and are confirmed pregnant you will continue the injections until your IVF physician instructs you to stop. This typically happens near the end of the first trimester. It’s critical to the pregnancy that you follow your IVF physician’s instructions exactly as instructed.
Is there anything required of my spouse/partner?
Your spouse/partner will be required to participate in the medical screening process by providing the clinic with blood and urine samples. If married, your spouse must be included in your legal contract. It’s important that your spouse/partner be in agreement of your becoming a surrogate mother and is willing to support you throughout the process.
Will I have any genetic relation to the child(ren) born?
No, as a Gestational Surrogate you will be using the eggs from either the Intended Mother or an Egg Donor. You will have no genetic relation to the child(ren).
Will my name or my spouse/partner's names go on the birth certificate?
With States that allow a Pre-birth order, the Intended Parents have full parental rights to the child and their names will go on the birth certificate. Neither the Surrogate Mother or her spouse/partner's name will go on the birth certificate.
Once I am pregnant, where will I receive medical care and deliver the baby?
Typically, you are able to see your current OB doctor during your pregnancy. If you need a new OB doctor we can provide you with a recommendation. You will be able to deliver at a hospital that is local to you so long as it’s approved by your insurance provider; this will most likely be where you delivered your own children.
How long will the process take?
We can match you immediately once you have completed the screening process which typically takes 1-3 months.